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Things To Know About Divorce Mediation

People often fail to recognize that although divorce may be the end of a marriage, it is not necessarily the end of a relationship. The involvement of children, family, friends and property often dictates that divorcing couples remain in contact in some manner. More likely than not, parents are going to continue to co-parent if children are involved. Parties may stay in contact with many of the same friends or family members. Divorcing couples may continue to live in the same community or even work together. The bottom line is that ending a marriage is hard on everybody involved and determining the method in which couples will choose to end their marriage and set the stage for their future relationship can be one of the most important decisions either party will make.


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    Mediation is very different than litigation. Litigation involves attorneys, judges, court dates and fees, and imposed decisions. Mediation is much more simple, efficient and effective. Here are a few things every divorcing couple should know about mediation:

    Divorce Mediation Is For Any Couple That Doesn’t Get Along

    Mediation is for couples that don’t get along. Many people have the misconception that mediation is only for couples that are amicable. In reality, mediation is all about the divorcing couple talking things out and coming up with their own solution and agreement. Many couples disregard mediation as an option because they figure it is only for couples that get along, not those that argue more than they talk. This is far from the truth. A mediator is trained to work in volatile situations and develop an atmosphere where parties can vent their feelings and speak openly, yet remain focused on the issues at hand. More often than not, divorces are bitter and emotional. A mediator helps the parties identify the issues they need to resolve in order to become divorced, brainstorm solutions to the issues, and come up with their own divorce agreement. Most importantly, a mediator helps the divorcing couple stay focused on the future rather than the past, and aids them in ending the marriage as peacefully as possible.

    Divorce Mediation Saves Money

    Mediation saves money. All that is required for a successful mediation is a neutral mediator and the divorcing couple. Mediation allows parties to avoid excessive attorney fees and court costs. It is designed to allow parties to settle as many issues as possible outside of court and without the aid of an attorney. However, mediation can be a good option even if one or more of the parties has already hired an attorney. Parties can choose to mediate only certain aspects of a divorce, such as parenting time schedules or the division of property, and leave other issues to their attorneys to resolve. Parties may even choose to bring their attorneys to mediation, although it is not required.

    Divorce Mediation Can Be Healthier For Children

    Mediation can lessen the effects of divorce on children. Litigation encourages competition and distrust among the parties, enhancing the sense of bitterness and anger toward one another. This anger and bitterness causes stress for children and effects family dynamics. Mediation encourages productive communication by helping parties communicate effectively, keeping parties focused on the needs of the children and family, and keeping parties focused on the future rather than the past. It also allows the divorcing couple to retain control of their futures and that of their children, rather than leave their fate in the hands of a judge.This reduces the stress divorce imposes on children and encourages post-divorce cooperation among the parents.

    Divorce Mediation Saves Time

    Mediation saves time. Mediation avoids long, drawn-out court procedures. Because mediation simply requires the divorcing couple to sit down and talk with each other and a neutral mediator, the parties determine how long it will take to resolve their issues and become divorced. The parties are in control of the situation. The more willing and prepared each is to discuss the issues, be open to various options, and come to an agreement, the quicker an agreement will be reached and the sooner each will be able to move forward and begin their new lives.